Arranged marriages are business ventures where parents are the sales team who source leads through matrimonies to sell their product in exchange for accountability.
— Tharun M (@testedoktharun) June 18, 2024
I believe the secret to a happy relationship is two happy people. Yes, that’s it.
But when that same relationship turns into marriage a lot of other factors come into play. Eventually ruining what was meant to be a happy relationship.
I thought we were progressing towards a liberal marriage society. But hardly no.
It is breaking the individualism of two individuals. Arranged marriage is a business JV between 2 families, unhappy individuals pushed to being together without consent, it is the easiest way for reproduction, a way to ensure financial stability for each other and a false romantic deal. All this fixated upon so-called values that our ancestors have left behind.
What % of people around you were happily married and still are?
Marriage is an influence upon two people by society. Naturally humans, without any other choice, accept to live by it.
Inside the institution of marriage, there are pre-defined rules that we ought to follow. No one can break it or question it. It has been there, don’t know why?
Yes, money is important to lead a stress-free life. But two people bonding over money with a false narrative called arranged marriage is atrocious. It will not last long.
Individuals should break outside of this illusion. Let us be free, we will not be spoilt, and we will make mistakes, but living with someone should be out of love not by chance.
People around me are getting married. The reason for their marriages is horrible to hear, at least to my ears.
- My Appa’s friend’s son was in a relationship with a girl for 7+ years. He earns 40LPA, but the girls’ parents declined the marriage because he lives in an apartment. What nonsense is this? He is well-off. He comes from a reputed family. Don’t drink, or smoke. Petty reasons to decline.
- One of my relatives (a boy) married a girl. She is the daughter of his father’s business supplier. An obvious reason to extend their business relationship.
If two individuals like each other, they should decide if they want to be together or not without societal pressure or constraints.
The moment outsiders are involved, Even be it parents, the relationship is poised for failure.
Things should happen naturally. Every decision should come organically, even if it is a bad one. Let us all learn from our mistakes.
I don’t know, I don’t have a gf yet. But when I do, the pressures of converting into marriage will mostly be from people who are not part of this relationship.